So for last night's date, I thought, let's go roller skating! It will be fun, carefree and of course, an excuse to hold hands or something while I gallantly keep her from breaking her hips.
We roll up to the rink (pun intended) and it kinda looks shady. It's in the middle of nowhere, kind of off on a side road. Pretty dark. We get inside, and it's 99% African-American. Ok-- now, there is nothing wrong with this, and I am certainly used to it as a former inner city schoolteacher. However, I can only imagine what is going on through my date's mind. 1st, she's from Taiwan, and Black people are so few and far between there that when you see someone, you ask to have your picture taken with them. 2nd, it's all kids and teenagers.
So it's hormones flying, boys trying to be tough, girls trying to be cool/sexy. Also a lot of showing off going on, so there are bodies flying and sliding all over the floor. Not to mention, little toddlers just learning how to skate going every which way (fortunately, you can avoid them by them going through your legs). And not only that, but everyone is skating in groups of 10-20, entering and exiting the floor in a pack. If you can imagine this, then you can see how dangerous this might be for someone who is not good at roller skating. Which describes my date perfectly.
We spent about an hour, hour and a half there. I think mostly to be polite. How would it have looked if we just turned tail and left? Personally, I was comfortable, but I felt uncomfortable for her. She was adamant about staying, so we did. But in the end, I think it was a decent time and she probably learned how to skate a lot better due to all the flying obstacles. Plus, I made up for it later, if you know what I mean. With Cookout. Supposed to be the In-n-Out of the South. You can judge for yourself next time you all visit.
Oh, and "roll bounce"? Yes-- we saw some guys who worked at the rink do backflips and kip-ups in their skates. Daaaaamn.
1 comment:
Here's my take:
Because she's Taiwanese (and it sounds like she's been in the US for not too long), you kind of have to take it slow. Trying to "Americanize" the situation will likely either piss her off, make her uncomfortable or both, none of which is conducive to you, ahem, achieving your end goal.
So just keep doing the fun, high schooly stuff while dropping your subtle/wimpy hints. Girls aren't stupid -- they know what you're up to and what you want. She obviously already digs you; just keep at it and she'll hopefully come around and give you what you want.
Note: this is only because she is Taiwanese. If she were American, I would say you need to cut to the chase with her and give her the option of upping the stakes or jumping ship before feelings start to get hurt.
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