Nobody's worse than you

You often hear people talking about how other people should be more considerate. This comes up in matters of relationships rather often - "What a jerk! He's such an asshole!" or "She's such a bitch, coldhearted and cruel."

We assail others for being rude, insensitive, or selfish, when really, we're the ones being selfish. Why should we expect anyone else to conform to our expectations? Presumably, most, if not all, behavior is for self-preservation. Being cold (as in dumping someone without warning, like the Sex and the City episode where the guy breaks up with Carrie by leaving a Post-it) is just a way to preserve our own feelings. Nobody wants to feel bad, or be made to feel guilty. So you avoid it, or just skip out.

In the episode, Carrie goes on and on about how the guy could have been more mature and how there's a "better" way to break up with someone. But why should anyone have to bend to what you or I think is the right way to do something, especially when it involves feelings? That's the most selfish thing I can think of.